tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8287005166012220959.post5396886992702156104..comments2023-10-17T11:02:33.352-04:00Comments on The child: How to be a working parentUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger23125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8287005166012220959.post-92038270023875946672011-12-03T14:13:03.631-05:002011-12-03T14:13:03.631-05:00Thank you for saying these things. My wife is upst...Thank you for saying these things. My wife is upstairs doing stories with our 4 yr old. The 2 yr old twins are already in bed. I've just cooked supper and am guiltily blogging. I will make sure my wife reads this.Mondalehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12626899685299810412noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8287005166012220959.post-36030493614669007232011-07-29T21:38:00.466-04:002011-07-29T21:38:00.466-04:00Finding those pockets...and taking advantage of th...Finding those pockets...and taking advantage of those moments of peace. That sounds pretty good to me. <br /><br />I know that every single day I don't measure up to what I think I should be. And it buzzes in my ear like a little bee. Thanks for the reminder to swat it, and breathe.Nancy Chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04313721217543578257noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8287005166012220959.post-74494755767579096922011-07-29T12:00:00.963-04:002011-07-29T12:00:00.963-04:00So, I know I've commented before on this post....So, I know I've commented before on this post...but just saw it on BlogHer!! Congrats! You are awesome...and to all the haters out there...well, we won't go there ;)Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17940118384108153753noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8287005166012220959.post-14447987088683527752011-07-27T00:58:12.075-04:002011-07-27T00:58:12.075-04:00Great post! It is totally normal to feel this way ...Great post! It is totally normal to feel this way and I think that is such a positive attitude to try to achieve... being "good enough". Our kids love us for who we are and to them, our lives are totally normal. They aren't spending every waking moment at a friends house who has a stay at home parent. They are the "majority", like most other kids that have both parents that work. I also like your thought about it being tough on the husband as well. My husband is a fireman who works shift work and I know sometimes he feels guilty he isn't there to put the kids to bed but what he doesnt realize he how lucky he is to sometimes get a whole day with them while I'm a work. We put so much pressure on ourselves as moms to be perfect and we compare ourselves and our situations to others. There will always be something to do and never enough time in the day but I really like your thoughts and I'm definitely going to try this new approach as well.Busy Bumphttp://www.busybump.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8287005166012220959.post-15688479902146538102011-07-26T22:15:40.967-04:002011-07-26T22:15:40.967-04:00Wow! Just found your site via BlogHer and I love ...Wow! Just found your site via BlogHer and I love this post! While my girls were tiny and we lived in a two-bedroom condo in LA, it was easy to be supermom. Now that I have a 3 and 2 -year-old, a yard, and our home, I've realized that keeping love the priority is often enough. No one can do it all.HealthnutFoodiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06077094605598838930noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8287005166012220959.post-75525031238127562402011-07-26T19:02:22.219-04:002011-07-26T19:02:22.219-04:00I am all about good enough parenting and I have re...I am all about good enough parenting and I have realized sharing the guilt with my partner helps my own issues of inadequacy.Beepnzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06506421262828693213noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8287005166012220959.post-65535463331205150992011-07-25T16:32:23.097-04:002011-07-25T16:32:23.097-04:00I love this...I'm a "good-enough" mo...I love this...I'm a "good-enough" mom myself. It's so hard to cut ourselves a break, but sometimes, good enough is GOOD!Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17940118384108153753noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8287005166012220959.post-67779763646257431972011-07-23T19:30:30.186-04:002011-07-23T19:30:30.186-04:00We are our own worst critics. Rather than grading ...We are our own worst critics. Rather than grading your day on what you did not accomplish, grade yourself on what you did.<br /><br />I say to myself, "Did I do the best I possibly could with what I was given for the day?" Is the answer is yes, then nothing else matters. Nothing else matters especially if the kids are loved, happy, secure, and thriving.T Rex Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07581711492269619311noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8287005166012220959.post-68913856284708478512011-07-23T10:37:21.708-04:002011-07-23T10:37:21.708-04:00When it comes to our kids, I think we always feel ...When it comes to our kids, I think we always feel inadequate. It is normal-and I think that it comes from the fact that as parents we want to do what we believe is best for our kids-but it's easy to set ourselves up for failure. You, my sweet, have nothing to worry about:)<br /><br />What I think is sad is parents who have unrealistic expectations about what their children should be like-and see their kids as inadequate. That attitude deserves an F!Valerie Boersmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08372768206512562126noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8287005166012220959.post-43355607364652316742011-07-22T14:37:15.723-04:002011-07-22T14:37:15.723-04:00Would it help to know that there is a well accepte...Would it help to know that there is a well accepted idea in psychoanalytic psychology called good-enough parenting? It originated with Winnicott's description of a "good-enough mother" who just loved her children. That's it. You love them, you do the best you can, you don't try to be Superwoman. I believed in that when I was married and now that I'm a single mom, I can't imagine any other way.secret agent womanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03763879283931347382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8287005166012220959.post-60454789449089500912011-07-21T22:17:58.694-04:002011-07-21T22:17:58.694-04:00I think I need to adopt these new terms as well Ki...I think I need to adopt these new terms as well Kim - brilliantly put. Good enough should be good enough. And we must remember that our good enough is somebody's best and thus nothing we do will ever be harmful to our kids. Leftover spaghetti will be the least of their issues, I can guarantee that!Ameenahttp://fancythatfancythis.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8287005166012220959.post-9435505465538953292011-07-21T08:55:51.014-04:002011-07-21T08:55:51.014-04:00I have come to that realization that "it is w...I have come to that realization that "it is what it is" too. I have many of those "failing mommy" moments around here especially when the kids don't get along and are nasty to each other. I can't overanalyze about what I should do better. I do it the best way I can.<br />I'm amazed at all that you get done. Working and balancing home life is so tough. Hugs to you!septembermomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01570525910483384484noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8287005166012220959.post-31162909290529428462011-07-20T23:21:29.438-04:002011-07-20T23:21:29.438-04:00Perfectly said. I think that's the only way t...Perfectly said. I think that's the only way to think to get through the constant Mom guilt that pervades us daily.January Dawnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16539860749434822861noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8287005166012220959.post-5451705656051196882011-07-20T17:42:58.274-04:002011-07-20T17:42:58.274-04:00Yes, Kim, that is very wise. Lately, I've bee...Yes, Kim, that is very wise. Lately, I've been doing the same--wanting to be the perfect mom, the perfect homemaker, cook, blogger, wife, photographer. But I stop, breathe, take it one day at a time. I don't have to be perfect today.Rach (DonutsMama)https://www.blogger.com/profile/14029074046922966097noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8287005166012220959.post-55256069971451367982011-07-20T17:10:44.465-04:002011-07-20T17:10:44.465-04:00Have I told you that you are my shero! You took th...Have I told you that you are my shero! You took the words right tour of my mouth and arranged them so articulately.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08700057904506855793noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8287005166012220959.post-62792081366360223092011-07-20T17:02:49.844-04:002011-07-20T17:02:49.844-04:00It is what it is - I love that! You should defini...It is what it is - I love that! You should definitely go with that theory because I'm not sure if a balance can ever be found.Evonnehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18053569885496919527noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8287005166012220959.post-58005744502238050402011-07-20T16:54:41.405-04:002011-07-20T16:54:41.405-04:00HIGH. FIVE.HIGH. FIVE.KMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03483933259132174614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8287005166012220959.post-5044102591999483122011-07-20T14:45:20.951-04:002011-07-20T14:45:20.951-04:00Exactly. It is what it is. You are good enough. We...Exactly. It is what it is. You are good enough. We all are doing our best with what we've been given and what we've worked for. What you're feeling is normal, but I'm sure you can tell by all the positive comments you are getting. :)Roxannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12330094142744544717noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8287005166012220959.post-45275151880187279012011-07-20T09:19:03.141-04:002011-07-20T09:19:03.141-04:00So clearly you are awesome. And I think that you n...So clearly you are awesome. And I think that you need to stop grading yourself!! You are beyond good enough!!!!! My mom worked, and it wasn't until I was a fully grown adult that I ever knew she felt inadequate. Because as children, you don't know. My brother and I didn't- and your kids don't. What you might feel is less than, is their normal and they love it.Sarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13705231514972615443noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8287005166012220959.post-13248303150716566222011-07-20T08:44:29.095-04:002011-07-20T08:44:29.095-04:00It's so hard to balance. I think all those fe...It's so hard to balance. I think all those feelings are completely normal. It sounds like you're holding strong :-)Lisa @ Two Bears Farmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03464839163693785901noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8287005166012220959.post-88288631877476560232011-07-20T08:36:06.864-04:002011-07-20T08:36:06.864-04:00Sounds like a brilliant idea!
I have no work-lif...Sounds like a brilliant idea! <br /><br />I have no work-life balance. I totally suck at it.Shellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06811697675090627618noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8287005166012220959.post-31566842514337325322011-07-20T08:11:23.686-04:002011-07-20T08:11:23.686-04:00AMEN!! It IS what it is...
I think you discovered ...AMEN!! It IS what it is...<br />I think you discovered something here. I'm gonna take on more of that thought of not beating myself up and grading myself too. :) Thanks for being such a caring Mom and being vulnerable/willing to share your insights. :)Gerrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15355005063119095095noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8287005166012220959.post-87428608664474020222011-07-20T07:36:19.311-04:002011-07-20T07:36:19.311-04:00I love that you used the term working parent becau...I love that you used the term working parent because it is just as hard on our husbands as it is on us! I don't know if it gets easier because there are still those days when I feel like a failure at all 3 jobs (wife, mother and employee). I guess we all do the best we can!Barbarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13311088408907148236noreply@blogger.com