Monday 31 January 2011

Can I ask you a question? (or two)

Why do you keep coming back here? I really want to know. I've been writing here for over three years now but have never asked you - the reader - what you want from me. Please tell me.

I asked Shaune what he thought I should write more about and he told me he'd like to see a post just about him. And how attracted I am to him. And he told me to be sure and emphasize how good looking I thought he was. Oh yeah and how I just can't keep my hands off of him.


I reminded him that the purpose of this was to keep people coming back to the blog not vomit. Not to mention the fact that I want to keep it real.

But really, would you do me this favour and tell me what you would like to see more of? And if you must, also tell me what you don't like so much. Without hurting my fragile ego.


While you're at it, tell me why you don't like to leave comments. Did you know that comments are a blogger's currency? What would make you comment more? I looked at my stats page and it's not bad. But for as many people who visit me here, a very small fraction ever leave a comment. I'd love to know what makes you tick.
I've been playing around with picnik today. It's fun and free!

26 comments:

  1. Hi Kim,
    I come here because you're authentic. You share your ups and downs with such honesty. You have such love for your family and that's a value that resonates with me. As a Mom who juggles so much in my life, it is important for me to find other women who can relate, support, and grow with me. Hope that helps. :)

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  2. Thanks Gerri! I feel exactly the same about you!!

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  3. I came later in the game..after we became friends on facebook so I missed quite a bit..but you have a great sense of humor and your kids are so darn cute..also I am jealous that this type of technology was not available to me when my kids were growing up. You are a fabulous writer and I love to hear your tales of the boys...mine were 2 years and 8 months apart and I like seeing the same growing with your 2 that I had with mine.

    Tracy

    Tracy

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  4. Thanks Tracy for all that you said. And for taking the time to comment even though you don't have a blog. I have to say, being mom to boys isn't half bad! You are so right about being lucky to have the means (technology) to do this.

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  5. I read because I like your style! And I love seeing pics of your boys and hearing your stories. You always have interesting reads and I anticipate your next post.

    And we used to work together and became friends. :o)

    Cheers

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  6. Awww, thanks Vick! I guess you would have to like seeing pics of the kids - god knows I put enough up here:) Thanks for the lovely comment and I'm glad we keep in touch!

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  7. I honestly can't remember what grabbed me at first but I have to say just really like you. I have been reading for quite a while and we have been commenting back and forth. I really feel like we have built a friendship. I love to hear about your family and your stories. You are so genuine and I really look forward to reading your blog. You always write meaningful comments on my blog too which I appreciate. I also think that I've enjoyed watching your boys grow up and think they are super cute. Their pictures always make me smile. Those are a lot of reasons but they are all true :)
    xoxo

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  8. Thanks Kat!! I agree, I really love the friendship we've built up and I know you're busy but I wish you'd post more often:) Love hearing about your two beautiful girls!

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  9. You are a beautiful writer, Kim. :)

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  10. Hmmm - I think you're a genuine person with a lot to share. I think I can learn a lot from you. Plus, I enjoy relating to your motherhood experiences.

    I don't know that I'd change anything. My favorite postings are those related to family and children but also about you and your thoughts. Just keep being you and I'll most certainly keep reading.

    On my FB page I often get requests for topics to write about. They range from TV and children to losing baby weight. It's fun to get those requests.

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  11. I think some of my favorite posts you've written have been the ones where you tell a story and I get to know more about you. Every time you write about your brother, I'm just touched to tears... I know it's got to be hard to write about that. I also loved that post you wrote about going on a trip somewhere when you were in college, and the kindness of one of the ladies on that weekend. I know those are both more serious examples, but I think those are some of the posts that stick in my mind as ones that just spoke me to me.

    I visit here because I think you're a fantastic writer, and also show a lot of support. Plus, those kids are just so darn cute. I love me some cute kid pictures.

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  12. And I just realised that you are asking the question to the wrong person!!

    I like you Kim, i enjoy those two kids... and i guess when we follow someone's blogs, we make a commitment (sort of) to be there. when we need someone to just hear what we have to say. I guess... I don't know. Maybe we learn a thing or two. I do. so... that is my reason I guess.. like I said, you asked the wrong person.

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  13. Natalie, where have you been?? I miss you and your blog! Thank you for still reading!

    T Rex Mom, thank you for being one of my number one commenters. Everything you say is always from your heart. I cherish the friendship we've developed and it's so great to have children the same ages to swap our motherstories about!

    Booyah's Momma, I love that we found each other this year. A kindred spirit! We're both adopted into Caucasian (sp?) families and we can relate to each other. I love your writing. You are at once funny and poignant.

    Ratz, you are so right about making the commitment to each other. I love your writing and I can't believe such wisdom comes from someone so young!

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  14. I love that your blog reveals so much about your every day life-and in a really interesting way. One of my blog goals for 2011 is to open up more to my readers-I only hope it will be interesting too:)

    (Plus, I visit your blog because your boys are so darn cute!! Love the pictures you post!)

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  15. I read your blog and enjoy your observation about life, love, and learning. You also make me laugh! Girl, you're amazing just the way your are!

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  16. Valerie, I hope you do write more about your life. I think that it's what makes blogging so compelling. We're sharing our stories. Thanks for your heartfelt comments!

    Teresha, I'm so glad we met this year. You make me laugh too and I love hearing about Marlie!

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  17. I come because I think you are AMAZING. Seriously... I wish I could explain it better, but I can't. Keep doing what you're doing because it's real. It's you. And we love you :)

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  18. I come because I am also a Mother of 2 boys and it is nice to see what my fellow "boy mamas" are up to. We don't have boys in our family - so this is new to me!

    I also find it interesting since you are in Canada - my husband is Canadian. He is from Toronto and your story about some of the awful comments you experienced as a kid hurt my heart and soul as I have heard his friends make similar comments. I want them to read your story.

    Which leads me to the fact that you are so sincere and inspiring and I love the way you love your boys, husband, (now deceased) brother, and family.
    I read and am INSPIRED! :)

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  19. oh - and sometimes I don't comment when...

    1 - I am in Google Reader and they don't have a button for it - which is irritating!

    2 - or if I am reading it from Google Reader on the blackberry

    3 - or sometimes if I am reading at work, the comment forms won't load.

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  20. I have no memory of how I first landed here. But I know for me blogging serves a number of purposes. One is just for myself - journaling my life and thoughts. And the other is for community. So I guess that's why I come here mostly - because you've become part of that community and it matters to me how you are doing. Same reason I comment - what is a community without interaction?

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  21. Hi Kim. It's funny you should write this post as I've been meaning to email you for a very long time and I promise to explain exactly why I've been reading your blog since you told me about it. I don't see your email on your blog and I'm not on facebook ... am I missing it?
    Your cousin,
    Nicole

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  22. My husband would like to see a post all about why he's awesome in bed. I don't think that's ever going to happen. These boys are dreaming!

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  23. I feel blessed to have found you :) We've been blogging buddies for a long time, and we'll be lifelong friends!! Sending my love to you...

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  24. I read because I LOVE seeing the pictures and hearing the stories of your boys! They are so cute! Since you have been on mat leave, it has been harder for us to connect, but I also feel more in touch with your life when I read your blog. In addition to your kids, I love hearing about your unique life experiences! And Shaune's right, a couple more posts about him would keep the readers interested! lol JP

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  25. Heather! Thanks for your support all this time. I love reading about what's going on down there in Alabama with you. I've been thinking about your dad and stepmom too. Love you!

    Kerri - so glad we connected. I too love that we are both moms to boys and are intimate with Canadians if you know what I mean:)Thanks for your comments!

    Secret Agent Woman - you are so right about this being a community. It has become really important to stay in touch with all of these wonderful friends I've met blogging.

    Nicky!!! Oh my goodness. I have to find your email address. I'd forgotten that you'd given it to me and I'm absolutely thrilled to hear from you. kimmcnamara71@hotmail.com

    Joey - thanks for swinging by. Hope we can continue this.

    Kelly (September Mom), I feel the same with you. I feel like we've been friends forever and can't imagine not knowing you now. When we finally meet up in person, I know it won't be awkward at all:) Love you!

    JP - please don't encourage Shaune. I know you think I'm ignoring you but I'm not. I miss talking to you everyday. I think I saw you more than my family last year. Thanks for keeping up with me and I'm still trying to figure out a night we can have you and MP over together:)

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  26. I love your writing, Kim. I don't comment as often as I like because I can't keep up with anything in my life. Sad, but true.

    I think your husband is cute. Yes, I said it.

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