Let me ask you this. How does one, so small, so cuddly, so smoochable, so scrumptious looking, wreak such havoc on a household?I am desperately tired. I am taking advice from anyone dispensing it. If you know of a way that I can even get a quick cat nap please call or email or text or facebook - whatever!
I bought the Baby Whisperer's second book. I don't know how I ever got Deaglan to sleep, maybe I didn't, I can't remember a thing about that time. All I know is that this kid only wants to sleep during the day when Deaglan is full of energy and raring to go.
At first I was 'co-sleeping' but that stopped working. Naveen started wriggling and squirming and crying all night long so I tried the next thing.
Crying it out.
But he just cried and cried and cried. We didn't like letting him cry especially since he never actually 'cried it out' so I took some friends' advice and bought Tracy Hogg's book. For a few days it looked promising. I put him on her three hour 'E.A.S.Y.' routine but in the last two days all bets seem to be off. Somehow his nights and days are even more confused. So the two or three hours of sleep I was getting at night no longer exist.
Here are a few thoughts that have been rattling around in my overtired mind.
How am I functioning on such little sleep?
Why hasn't someone claimed to be the Marriage Whisperer and made millions focusing saving the marriages of parents of infants?
Wasn't the second kid supposed to be a good sleeper if the first wasn't?
Why didn't I sleep more before I had kids????
and also - Couldn't you just eat him up?
hire a nurse for one week AT night so you can sleep.
ReplyDeletemake sure that crying isn't collic or food alergies.
letting them cry it out only works for older babies and never when they cry at night - crying it out sounds different than a baby that is distressed and therefore crying. Crying it out is for when you've spoiled them by holding them all the time and the only whay they will sleep is if you hold them.... then it is your will against theirs, not other issues.
there is normal amounts of crying - is his crying within that amount of time - if more consult your pediatrician. I would bet on his food is wrong.
hire a nurse for a weekend and take your husband to a motel for some sleep etc.
can't think of anything else. want me to do some internet research for you?
Hi Kim, I am sorry to say that I don't have advice but am wishing you well. Noah was a tough cookie. When he wasn't nursing (every hour to hour and a half) I was trying to get him to sleep. It is all a blur....but my husband took lots of pics of Noah asleep on top of me in my favorite recliner. Not safe, I know, but effective. Good luck Hon! By the way, crying it out didn't work for me either...
ReplyDeleteI could just eat him all up :)
ReplyDeleteKim, I wish I had some good advice for you in this department. I had a tough time with all my kids when they were that small. I felt like I nursed 24 hours a day some days. I usually had success with the co-sleeping. I do remember how the sound of the air conditioner seemed to calm down one of my sons. That "white noise" or whatever seemed to mesmerize him for a while. Good luck and I'm thinking of you :) Wish I could come by and give you some relief. Hugs always...
First, I am so sorry you are going through this tough time.
ReplyDeleteI should have warned you that the Baby Whisperer is not a fix it but a long term fix.
One thought I just considered - acid reflux?
What about changes to your diet? I could not do any kind of dairy (for 6 months) with either of my kids or there was no sleep to be found.
Something else to consider - ear infection.
Maybe a trip to the pediatrician just to make sure there is nothing else going on.
You should consider pumping and just going to sleep with ear plugs - you have to get sleep otherwise you will stop making milk.
I so wish I could be there to offer you in-person support and encouragement and watch the kids while you got some rest. Just remember to take care of you because if you don't you cannot take care of the kids.
And they are so adorably cute - it's a defense mechanism!
I've got it!
ReplyDeleteBring Deaglan and Naveen by my house on Friday morning. I will let Deaglan run wild with Chloe and I will maul your gorgeous baby for all he's worth. You can sneak into our spare room for a nap, or you can go home, sleep and then come back when you have had a bit of rest. There is no rush.
Okay, it's a short-term fix - but it might save your sanity.
Giant hugs,
Shel.
Naveen is sooo cute....love those chubby cheeks and thighs!
ReplyDeletei am so sorry you arent getting any sleep. you should pump and let your hubby take care of the baby for a few hours so that you can get a little rest, for one night at least so that you can get refreshed. this newborn stuff is hard. i am still cosleeping with my baby and it seems to work for us....i wish you luck!
Oh honey - I hope you can get some sleep soon! I don't know anything about this yet, unfortunately, so I can offer no advice. Accept that when my little brother was a baby, Mama would put his car seat on top of the clothes dryer and turn it on. The soft rumble and vibration put him to sleep. I guess it's worth a shot? It's the only thing that worked for him.
ReplyDeleteGood luck. I'll be thinking of you :)
Oh, Kim, I'm sorry you're exhausted!
ReplyDeleteHow old is Naveen now? He sounds a lot like my oldest as a baby. She slept great. All day long. And was up crying for hours and hours every night for the first two months of her life. If I'd had other children and couldn't have rested during the day, I don't know how I would have survived. Is his crying prolonged or is he happy to be held?
I have an article I want you to read (another one!), would you send me your email address? Maybe I could give you some specific advice if I have more details?
Also, Naveen is adorable. What a gorgeous picture! You're an incredibly lucky (if tired) momma!